Many of us from time to time need someone to talk to, to listen to us, and/or let us process stuff. Sometimes it's really hard to find the ideal listener. The one who intuitive listens, doesn't interrupt, let us cry without having to explain the tears immediately. Sometimes it would be great if that listener would hold off giving advice until you ask for it. However, isn't the most important thing you want in a listener is to be non-judgmental, supportive and capable of not blabbing it to everyone?
My mom is that someone, who is non-judgmental, supportive and capable of keeping secrets. I can talk to my mom about ANYTHING! She's not always the greatest listener on the planet, but she's loving, compassionate, intelligent, very non-judgmental, open to new ideas, can keep content confidential, supportive, forgiving, and a strong individual. Yes, sometimes she interjects solutions to the problem. Yes, she doesn't always know what to say or not say. Yes, I know she's not cut out to be a coach or therapist. Yet the amazing thing is everyone comes to her with their problems and plans. The reason is she's non-judgmental, fun, and not easily shocked by life.
Do you have a person in your life like this? It doesn't have to be your mom. It's that person is human listener, who may not be a perfect listener.
It's great to hear from people who have supportive parents, and I envy that you have such a relationship with your mother!
ReplyDeleteMy mother is praying for my "cure" to ADD and my father doesn't believe it exists. Fortunately I'm able to sound off about anything on my boyfriend of 9 years.
When it comes to the ADD issues,though, I think having a fellow ADHD friend would be ideal. There are some things "regular" people just can't wrap their head around, like why I organize things in my ADD-friendly way lol.
I wasn't trying to imply that it had to be supportive parents. I envy girls, who have great father-daughter relationships because I didn't get to have that with my own father. It does help talking to a fellow ADDer, however, sometimes that isn't available. There are "non-ADD/ADHD" folks, who aren't regular themselves. My cousin Shelley isn't officially ADD, but she has dealt with depression.
DeleteMost people do not bother about they difference between ADHD and ADD, simply because they are not sure. For them, ignorance is bliss and they think that these acronyms refer to some attention disorder or some problem with hyperactive children. These definitions are very basic but that is what most people understand.
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